“With a resolution, it’s a commitment to take care of what you value,” Amborn shares. “Start with self-love. If you value yourself, you will make a concerted effort to take care of yourself.” Visualize Changes When forming individual New Year’s resolutions, start by dreaming a little. Amborn cites research that shows people are most productive and creative when relaxed. She suggests taking advantage of a daydream state to visualize weight-loss success. To be most effective, she recommends, write resolutions down. “Scientists have proven that when you write something down in the present tense, your brain thinks you’ve already done it, and believes it. For example, ‘I am eating better. I am exercising more. I am getting appropriate rest,’ ” Amborn explains. Change, even positive, can be overwhelming, so start small, she advises. One way to kick off a new resolution might be to assertively state it to your household. Your announcement could be as simple as, “I want to make 2010 a healthy year.” List expectations of how family members can support this goal. Amborn adds, “A week or two later, repeat the statement. Those words sound assertive and represent boundaries and expectations being established.” Develop an Action Plan Define core values as you work to set and attain goals. Amborn says, “One way to define your values is to visualize yourself at the end of your life, thinking of the legacy you want to leave behind. 2010 is a fresh start. Ask yourself: How do I direct myself to build a foundation for my legacy? The action plan has to become specific.” To develop a plan of action, set a weight-loss goal and establish it as a priority. Recognize obstacles and double resistance to them. Build determination. For example, if pressured to eat tempting, high-calorie treats, say, “Thanks, but I’m not hungry right now.” Visualize saying this in present tense, and rehearse turning down tempting holiday food. Take Concrete Steps Practice new “small picture” habits while keeping a focus on the “big picture,” to fuel motivation. Make the following changes that can add up to big improvements by the end of the year. In addition, follow these recommendations from Amborn to make your resolutions stick and promote motivation. • Don’t mourn the past, when weight was gained. It wastes time to be mired in regrets. Simply start your 2010 action plan. • As weight comes off, look for hidden rewards. Every few pounds will yield additional health benefits. • Confront negative beliefs held by both you and others. Each of us has “a rebel inside us” who urges us to give in to temptations. Even if we failed in the past, that doesn’t necessarily mean we’ll fail again. • Take responsibility for each day. Reflect on how the day went. If you ate too much food, recognize it, move on, and plan for tomorrow. • Believe in yourself. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. TOPS chapter meetings each week are a treasure trove of support. “Remember this is for your benefit. You have to love yourself enough to do it,” says Amborn. “It’s about the kind of life you want to live in the new year and in the years ahead.”